"i want you to imagine a ten year old version of yourself sitting across from you right this minute. got it? ok, now i want you to tell this little girl or boy that they mean absolutely nothing. tell them they're an embarrassment, that they're worthless, that they're useless. are you doing it...? can you say it? no. you can't do it, right? now, realise that this is essentially what you do to yourself every single day. what do you really want to say to this kid? that they're worth it, right? that they're incredible and they should never let anyone tell them otherwise. now, say this new stuff to yourself. replace the bad with the good. repeat it. believe it. understand it."