Discernment is key. it takes time to learn how to be attracted to what’s good for our souls, but when you learn to truly love yourself, your desires shift, emotional needs change, and the way you want to be loved gets redefined. not everyone is worthy of your love. and that’s okay. don't allow impatience to lower your expectations and compromise your values. keep on resisting the urge to cave in to toxic impulses. being alone is far better than being with the wrong one. embrace this season of life for it is just that- a season. true love will come and you will be so thankful you didn't settle. 😘❤️💯
A gentle reminder:
we can meditate and do yoga and read all the self-help books.
we can exercise and socialize and strategize our to-do lists.
we can meal-prep and take our vitamins and think positively.
we can wear on-trend clothing and look put-together.
we can eat the latest superfoods and charge our crystals and marie kondo our spaces.
we can eat organic and spend time in nature and volunteer.
... but if we do any of this in order to *find* our worth, we’re doing it backwards.
if we do any of this to *justify* our worth, we’re doing it backwards.
if we do any of this to *prove* our worth, we’re doing it backwards.
and if we do any of this in order to become *more* worthy, we’re missing the point.
we are worthy human beings without any of the extra “stuff”.
we are worthy human beings without any of the commercialized qualifications.
we are worthy human beings without insta-worthy images of perfection.
we are worthy human beings without the price tags or brand names.
we are worthy human beings simply by existing.
we cannot buy or prove or hustle or hate our way towards loving and accepting ourselves. we cannot start from the outside in and expect to find what we're seeking. we can explore all of these external avenues as tools towards nourishing ourselves, but until we *also* do the work that happens internally, all the "stuff" will fall short in helping us find what we're looking for.
the "stuff" is wonderful and useful and often supportive, but it isn't the winning ticket. it all starts right here (inside), bare and raw and personal. while we search and search and search elsewhere, its easy to forget that it starts within and it’s already there, just waiting for us to see it. 🌙
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This is a difficult one. and many won’t want to agree or face it. but, it’s how you level up, my friends.
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