When we are young they force us into a box draped in either pink or blue. when we grow and assert our own autonomy, they deride us for attempting to have a say about our own destinies. they say what we are doing is against god, unnatural, and messing with the way things “just are”. •
yet, where are these sentiments when they are forcing their ideas about who we are on us as infants, when we can’t even form words yet? where are these sentiments when they are busy forcing one of two colors, toys, and types of clothes on us? they’re conveniently missing. •
when a child born with a p***s crys, tears surely made by this god they talk about, and a a parent tells them to stop crying because they’re not a little girl—where then are these sentiments? when a child with a v***a wants to run around outside all day playing games instead of staying inside with dolls and kitchen sets, a natural desire for sure, gets scolded for “thinking she’s a boy”—where are these sentiments then? they’re conveniently absent.
when they say it’s just the way things are, what they really are saying is it’s just the way things were for me, and i’m going to enforce these ways on you. i suffered through it, so you will too. it’s like hazing, except it’s adults doing it to infants. •
and the part that gets me is how everyone complicit in this system pretends like they don’t see what they’re doing. they pretend like binary gender is natural and just happens. but like an indoor plant that needs our diligent tending, gender doesn’t just happen, it needs things from us to grow. •
binary gender needs the constant surveillance of adults’ watchful eyes, punishments for those who step out of line, and positive reinforcement when we stay in our designated lanes. •
none of this is natural. it takes work. work that most refuse to believe they are doing, because if they acknowledged it, then they would also have to acknowledge how they were bullied into the gender roles of which they now inhabit, most likely against their will.
nonbinary & trans people are a response to this violence. we are created in god’s image. we are natural. we are just the ways things are. for left alone, we are what happens.
2,784 9122 hours ago
Walking out in public as myself brings a lot of anxiety and stress. to be honest, i often avoid going to predominantly cishetero spaces because i’m so hyper-vigilant and sensitive to all the stares, laughter, and (sometimes) verbal harassment i may encounter. often i’ll hear “what the f**k is that?” when i walk by a group of people, or receive threatening messages or comments on ig (one time there was a thread of strangers joking about me being hit by a bus). just the other day while driving home from an event, two people in a car driving in the lane next to me kept speeding up and slowing down while videotaping me on their phones. this anxiety, as a result, holds me back from enjoying activities and events unless i’m with a very large group of friends. but while this is a part of my non-binary experience, i know that i want and deserve to access spaces like anyone else. i try to remember the following as i ground/regulate myself in those experiences:
(1) as hard as it is to acknowledge, it’s actually not personal. the disrespect and hate i receive from others is not a burden of my expression but a reflection of their pain and conditioning. instead of asking “what’s wrong with them?” i try to ask “what happened to them?” in that, i realize that they too have been conditioned to the same systems of transphobia that i have, and perhaps i represent something that they identify with, are attracted to, and/or envy for my freedom in expression. keeping that in mind, i only wish them healing and patience. (2) their hate is a reminder of my power, not a determination of my worth. because my existence elicits such a violent reaction, i must hold an incredible amount of influence and power in my visibility. for every stare or threat hurled my way, a seed of change is also planted. many people (regardless of intentions) who see me will likely go on to question themselves, their expected methods of expression and identity, and their capacity for acceptance. perhaps others will find inspiration, courage, or strength to freely express themselves knowing that they are not alone. my visibility is necessary in creating a more revolutionary world for future generations.
Wishing you love, good vibes, and a wonderful day! live and lead each moment with patience, compassion, an open mind and heart ❤️ pc: @medicenpaolo
Uhhhh i’ve got so much to tell you guys! my tummy hurts - el 🤠 (she/her) bi
1,056 53 days ago
am samstag ist wieder #csd in münchen - und ich habe beschlossen, meine zettel diese woche der queer-community zu widmen.⠀
ich spreche ganz viel darüber, seinem herzen zu folgen. für mich ist liebe die größte, schönste und wichtigste energie auf dieser welt. ich versuche also stets diese energie in mir zu finden und mein leben und alles, was ich bin, danach auszurichten.⠀
und es bricht mir das herz, zu wissen, zu hören, zu sehen, dass es menschen gibt, die, genau wie ich, nach liebe greifen und mit ihr leben wollen – und dafür abgelehnt, weggestoßen, verachte, ausgeschlossen und beschimpft werden. nur, weil ihre liebe nach außen hin vielleicht etwas anders aussieht und nicht der gesellschaftlichen norm entspricht. die liebe aber – im kern ist sie immer gleich. vollkommen egal, in welcher form sie sich äußert. #loveislove ❤⠀
⠀ #pride#prideweek#lgbtq #lgbtqi🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 #lgbt#lesbian #g*y #bisexual#trans#questioning#intersex#asexual#ally#genderqueer#genderneutral#genderfluid#nonbinary#cis#pansexual#quotes#zitat#pridequotes