1 corinthians 13:13 says, “and now these three remain: faith, hope and love. but the greatest of these is love.” this comes just after paul’s famous description of what true love is. love is greater than faith and hope because both faith and hope depend on love for their existence. without love, there can be no true faith; a loveless faith is nothing but an empty religion. 1 corinthians 13:2 says “if i have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, i am nothing”. without love, there can be no genuine hope. with out love faith and hope are dead. one of the reasons that love is the greatest gift is that it is god’s nature. 1 john 4:8 says that god is love. jesus taught that the greatest two commandments both include love, “‘love the lord your god with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ this is the first and greatest commandment. and the second is like it: ‘love your neighbor as yourself.’ all the law and the prophets hang on these two commandments” (matthew 22:37–40).
i read one time that "faith and hope are our own, but love is given to others.” in other words, faith and hope benefit the possessor, but love always benefits another. in john 13:34–35 jesus says, “a new command i give you: love one another. as i have loved you, so you must love one another. by this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” love always requires an “other", love cannot remain within itself, and that is part of what makes love the greatest gift.
That's a good ❔ and i believe everyone goes through seasons like that. there is a similarity between physical strength 💪and spiritual strength. if we want to grow stronger we have to work out and eat! if we don’t eat, we’ll grow weaker, waste away and eventually die. and if we don’t work out consistently, we will not build muscle. the same is true spiritually and really with any relationship. i used to think that the lord’s prayer was a prayer we are supposed to recite word for word. and some people think that the lord’s prayer has some special power or influence with god. but the bible teaches the opposite. god is far more interested in our hearts when we pray than he is in our words. “and when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. for they think that they will be heard for their many words” (matthew 6:6-7). personally, prayer for me is just talking to god. i tell him the things that are on my heart. i think him for all he has done in my life and pray for guidance in all i do. and i even pray for him to bring the pain if i am getting off track because for me that is what gets me back on track the quickest! (i have never been accused of being hard headed he doesn't want us to simply recite memorized words. when jesus spoke the lord’s prayer he was giving us an example of how to pray. “our father in heaven” is teaching us whom to address our prayers tor. “hallowed be your name” is telling us to worship god, and to praise him for who he is. “your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven” is a reminder to us that we are to pray for god’s plan in our lives and not our own plan. you should ask god for the things we need “give us today our daily bread.” “forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us” reminds us to confess our sins to god and to turn from them, and also to forgive others as god has forgiven us. the conclusion of the lord’s prayer, “and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one” is a plea for help in achieving victory over sin and a request for protection from the attacks of the devil.is there anything wrong with memorizing the lord’s prayer? ...continued in comments!...
"'love the lord your god with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' this is the first and greatest commandment. and the second is like it: 'love your neighbor as yourself.'
all the law and the prophets hang on these two commandments."
In ephesians 5:22, paul instructs wives to “submit to your husbands as to the lord.” a few verses later, in verse 33, he says, “let the wife see that she respects her husband.” a lot of people get caught up on the word “submit” in this passage, worrying that it calls women to submit to men because they are lesser or not as equal. men and women are equals, period. in ephesians 5:21, paul says, husbands, submit to your wives. wives, submit to your husbands.
what paul is saying is to respect your husband like you would the lord. not the way your friends respect their spouses.
why? because, by nature, the number 1 need of men is honor and respect. men gravitate to the place where they get honor and respect. they run from any place where they might be disrespected. allow him to fail, he is not perfect and he knows this. a lot of women cause damage to their marriages because they try to keep their husbands from making mistakes. they correct their husbands all the time and tell them what to do. that’s the wrong approach. you certainly don’t want to allow self-destructive behavior. but it's ok to let him make a mistake. for men, some lessons are best learned through failure. husbands and wives are equals. this means you can say anything you want to say. you can confront your husband when necessary but once you’ve confronted him, leave it in god’s hands. don’t nag. don’t become aggressive or fearful. instead, pray for your husband and rely on god to change his heart or mind. that’s what it means to have faith. honor where you want him to be not where he is now. your husband will rise to your level of honor. men will do anything for honor. by giving him undeserved honor, you speak destiny into him. think about what you first saw in him. think about the things that first attracted you to him. then honor him at that level, and watch him rise to it. cover his faults and focus on his strengths. he wants you to know that you’re his best friend and he wants you to see him as your best friend too. all of this is summed up with one word. my brother wrote a book on it. "the right fight" by @johnkennedyvaughan
All right, men, i am far from perfect at this but here it is. no, this is not a blanket statement for all women but most women's greatest need is for security. a woman feels most secure when she is with a husband that is sensitive. in the movie beauty and the beast, when the beast became sensitive he won bell's heart! heck, he won mine too! strong but sensitive! a woman wants a man to learn what is important to her. she doesn’t have to nag him or drop hints. his job is to serve his wife. he identifies what she needs and he makes sure she gets it. a sacrificial husband will sacrifice a hobby or interest to show that nothing in life is as important as his wife. that is what gives her security. she also needs nonsexual affection. holding hands, hugging, kissing each other and being gentle without expecting it to lead somewhere. men, if you don’t feel like doing that it doesn’t matter you need to change and meet your wife’s needs.women also want open and honest communication. when you get home from work and she says “how was your day" she wants details! then ask about their day as well. they want actual information, feelings, and opinions. they want to connect to your world. you have to be willing to do something that, at first may be uncomfortable in order to meet some of her basic needs.women also need leadership. this doesn’t mean dominating them, you are equals. but they do want their husbands to initiate in certain areas. you don’t have to take the lead on everything. if you make all decisions without consulting her you probably need to dial it back a little. be the spiritual leader of your home!”husbands, love your wives, just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” jesus loved the church with a sacrificial love. his love was selfless. that’s how men should love their wives by sacrificing to meet their needs.meeting her needs requires looking outside yourself and identifying the things that are important to her. sacrifice your own desires or comfort and commit to loving her more than you love yourself. this is love and that is the language they speak! tomorrow i will let you know my opinion on what he wants!
Saw this post today and i have to say it is one of the most broken statements i have ever read. nothing is less attractive than a person who is "into themselves." to even suggest that loving yourself will make others love you will only attract selfish people. i do believe that most find confidence attractive but misplaced confidence is extremely unattractive! i would consider myself a confident person. confident that i am no more or less valuable than anyone else. confident that i will always be a work in progress. self-worth is too often based on what other people think about us. the one, true authority on our self-worth is jesus christ, and since he gave his own life up for us by dying on a cross, that should be all the confidence you ever need.
if you want to be loved, love! and don't love because you want to be loved, that's manipulation. love gives expecting nothing in return, it is self-giving and does not consider the worth of its object. love is a choice, not a feeling. choose to love and the feelings will follow.
Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
fear is one of the most destructive forces in relationships. it never motivates us to do the right thing. 2 timothy 1:7 says, “god has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
men typically mask their fear by trying to be macho. women typically don't hide it but it will cause destruction in your relationship. fear will be at the core of your worst disagreements. to get rid of it, you have to learn to understand it—and then disarm it.
much of our fear has to do with basic needs. every person’s deepest need is the need for love, which is why almost everyone fears rejection. when you fear being rejected, you close your heart in order to protect yourself. that way, if you do get rejected, it won’t hurt so much. that’s why fear of rejection damages intimacy.
many times we ask god to change our bf/gf or spouse, but in many cases, you need change as well. ask god to take your fears and fill you with love, power, and a sound mind. ask your spouse or bf/gf to do the same. don't hide your fears, let them know and let god work in your lives!
I must say patience is something i struggle with. the true test of patience comes when we feel violated, when a car cuts us off in traffic, when we are treated unfairly. we feel like we have a right to get upset in the face of irritations and trials. impatience seems like a justifiable anger. the bible praises patience as a fruit of the spirit (galatians 5:22) which should be produced for all followers of christ (1 thessalonians 5:14). patience reveals our faith in god’s timing, omnipotence, and love.
most people think patience is a passive waiting or gentle tolerance. hebrews 12:1: “therefore since we also are surrounded with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight and the sin which so easily besets us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us”. we don't run a race by passively waiting for the slow or gently tolerating cheaters. the word translated “patience” in this verse means “endurance.” a christian runs the race patiently by persevering through difficulties. in the bible, patience is persevering towards a goal, enduring trials, or expectantly waiting for a promise to be fulfilled. it doesn't develop overnight. your relationship with god is crucial to the development of patience. colossians 1:11 says we are strengthened by him to “great endurance and patience,” god promises that our patience is rewarded in the end.
we should rejoice in god’s will (philippians 4:4; 1 peter 1:6) even if it is not our own. i used to think i had to enjoy it to rejoice in it but we don't have to enjoy it we just have to do it. second, we seek his purposes. i believe sometimes god puts us in difficult situations so that we can be a witness. other times, he might allow a trial for us to build character. remembering that his purpose is for our growth and his glory will help us in the trial. third, we remember his promises such as romans 8:28, which tells us that “all things god works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” the “all things” include the things that try our patience. praying that everyone has a great day!