I set a goal in 2018 to redefine strength... redefine self love and value. because the two go hand in hand... my strength is defined, not by what i continue to carry but by what i have allowed my self to put down. there's so many misperceptions that if we keep holding on and holding on it's a sign of strength. when we try and keep a dead thing alive and we are gasping for air with it. this is not a true sign of strength. this is pain. this is less than. this is not love or kindness to anyone or anything. this is suffering. so when a thing or person has served its purpose in our life, it is our highest to end the connection as soon as it has come in to conscious completion. this is the strength. the strength to let go of a thing you love when you know in your heart it's time. the strength to choose your heart over any voices in your head or thoughts of others. the strength to surrender. to say enough. to choose divine. so if something is no longer working in your life, dig within and find your courage or create your strength to be free and to move forward in to more rewarding futures.
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I feel like the question i’m asked most on social is “how are you so strong?” “how are you always so happy?” i feel like it’s something that should be addressed in post because it’s something that i don’t want misunderstood by my viewers... even the ones who are too afraid to ask. listen, i’ve been highly transparent about my last two years, healing, struggle, growth, rises and falls... and while i do maintain a positive outlook on everything in my life (because i’ve trained myself to find light, even in the darkest, seemingly helpless times.) please don’t think that i’m indestructible. i have my moments of weakness, lapses of character & judgment... i cry, get angry, and make impulsive emotion based decisions sometimes myself. but the difference now is that i’m self aware. 👉🏾i know myself 👈🏾 because i’ve taken years to be alone and find my true authentic identity. & with that knowledge... i’ve learned accountability / owning mistakes, i’ve learned to recognize in moments of weakness my impulsive decisions that are based on how i’m feeling in that particular moment, are temporary.. however the results of my decisions could be long term. 🗣✨💕 hear me out...there’s two sides of me... there’s the kimmy you all know.. and then there’s the soft, submissive, nurturing side of me that requires me to be vulnerable. i can count on two hands how many people walking this earth that have felt that part of me... and learning to separate the two has been my key to maintaining strength and control over myself, my feelings and my life. being open, submissive and soft means being vulnerable. being vulnerable means there’s opportunity for let down & hurt. you have to be selective about who you share your private self with. and that’s my advice for maintaining happiness, light, and all around positivity... don’t give your soft self to everyone who sings something sweet to you. let that part remain private and require that part of yourself to be earned, by others over time. your peace is too precious to be available to just anyone.💌