I think most of us are walking around with hurts and unhealed parts of ourselves, projecting those hurts onto others in some form or another-either from time to time or often, either subtly or profoundly, which play out in different ways. and this is a helpful way to reflect before responding in relationships/life experiences/encounters.
once we realize this, it’s a lot easier to not take things personally. cuz nothing anyone does is ever really about you. it’s much more about themselves-including me and how i respond to you.
i recently did this thing called “tapping” or “mind change method” with my friend heather to reshape my memories and help heal parts of my wounded self. we went back to this one experience at the school yard in elementary school when a girl walked up to me and said “so and so wanted me to tell you that she hates your guts and she thinks your ugly.” my actual experience was that i ran away crying and at home that night my mom held me in her arms with words of encouragement to soothe me. but heather helped me imagine walking up to the girl who was sneering with her friends at the back of the recess lot. and place myself inside of her body. and feel what she was feeling. that she was hurting and alone and insecure, and felt ugly herself. heather asked me to place a seed inside of her heart with words she needed to hear to heal- that she is beautiful and loved just the way she is. then i took myself out of her body and stood in front of her. her face turned from sneering to smiling at me and we embraced.
quote of the day: “acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” -eckhart tolle
Sound on🎧if you haven’t seen already, simon hill from the @plant_proof podcast and i got to sit down together for a chat! we talk about my story and why i changed my diet 12 years ago, my 3 vegan pregnancies, breastfeeding and tips to improve supply, supplements we take as a fam, tips about plant based food & children, attachment parenting, homeschooling/life schooling and so much more. check it out if you wanna have a listen, the link is in my ig stories or go straight to the @plant_proof podcast on itunes. hope you enjoy! simon, you’re a gem and i love your podcast. you are so engaging, open and kind, i’m so glad to have connected with you.
I just adore this little girl!
remember parents to not only show your children you love them, but show them you *like* them too- for who they are. that you love their personalities, and love to learn what excites them in life, that you love to be around them because they are awesome. that you jump at the chance to rest in their embrace and play the games they are excited to play. being a parent we can get so busy and caught up in the to do list and work and cleaning and trying to have adult conversation amidst all that too and yeah- get burnt out too. it’s a lot! but these reminders are really helpful for me and get to the heart of what’s important to me cuz they are little for only so long. what’s your favorite thing about your child(ren)? ps- this rattan mirror is by my fave people before profit company @31bits ! check out my insta stories for my holiday ethical vegan gift guide we collaborated on!
Thankful for meaningful, connected, motherhood friendships. and not even everyone is in this photo-you know who you are! it took a while for me to have a community of friendships where we live that fostered trust, non judgement, and deep love-and we are still growing and deepening that trust each day. i have a tendency to be suspicious and guarded when making new friends-likely stemming from past hurts and betrayals that deeply effected me. but i’m so thankful for these women helping me push myself to learn, grow and evolve. i think a lot of people might be in similar shoes to this, where past friendship hurts effect their present. do you have any similar experiences? having these women in my life is something i’m so truly thankful for. and they help me more as time goes on-continually learning from my mistakes with their encouragement and what feels like unconditional love. we are all different, excel in different ways to which we can encourage each other in, and many have different passions or viewpoints on things- its a beautiful thing.
i look back at my thanksgiving from over 5 years ago when we first moved to hawaii, eating our dinner with my little fam by ourselves and think, wow look how it has evolved and grown! we had a massive and delicious vegan “friendsgiving” sharing thanks for one another yesterday. (yt video coming soon on that!) i just want to encourage you. if you are lacking community and desire it, if you are feeling alone or hurt or guarded. i understand you. there is light ahead. i hope everyone reading this knows they are loved and cherished just as they are.
Happy 7th birthday my darling elvis! i love you more than words can express. you were born into my arms and flipped my world upside down in the most intense but beautiful way. you made me a mother. you’re passionate, excited about star wars and math, you love your buddies, you adore and nurture and take care of your siblings, you’re stubborn, sensitive and sweet all in one package. you want to wear this star wars shirt every day. i see glimpses of myself as a kid in you - right down to having a dress that i wanted to wear every day at your age too. but you’re so uniquely, and wonderfully and individually you. i love you elvis, i can’t even fathom my world without you. today we celebrate your life. ❤️
Not everyone is gonna like you, or understand you. people might even tear you down, misrepresent you, lie about you, exaggerate and twist the truth. and people might come to their own conclusions about you through assumptions and hearsay.
and you know what, that’s ok. other people’s opinions of you are not a reflection of your value as a person. in fact it’s quite the opposite- negative opinions and statements made against you are much more about the person saying it and what they’re going through than the person they are speaking of.
think before you speak. is it kind? is it true? is it necessary? is it uplifting? is it helpful?
one thing i love about my journey on social media is that it has given me a thicker skin. the negativity comes in by the thousands and it has only made me stronger. it’s empowering to not let other people’s opinions and assumptions about me run my life, run my emotions or dictate my happiness and present.
sometimes it hits hard and i need to take a moment to reflect. but then i look at the bigger picture and it really doesn’t matter-unless it’s constructive, which isn’t often, but when it’s there it can be overwhelmingly humbling and help us grow further.
don’t forget to keep shining your light and not let it be dimmed by others opinions of you. you will never make everyone like you or agree with how you are doing things. just isn’t gonna happen. accept it, fully embrace it, and keep doing good work and efforts in making a difference in the world.
you are beautiful and whole and perfect just as you are. and if you find yourself often spending time criticizing and thinking negatively about others- reflect on that. what good is that doing for your life?
There is nothing quite like chomping on a delicious veg spread your mama made you while coloring on your new deck with your bro, fresh crisp air and trees surrounding you…all while wearing shaka pajama pants. 🤙🏼 delicious spread includes:
diced assortment of veg (celery, carrots, cucumber and bell pepper) to dip in 🥕🥒
guacamole🥑from the most decadent creamy avocados “lettuce boats” aka lettuce dolloped with guacamole + sprinkled with h**p seeds
homemade rawnola invented by my friend @lonijane (oats, dates +coconut flakes) topped with raspberries, h**p seeds, and sliced banana. enjoy! 🍌🥥
I am so excited to share some big news for our family! we bought a home with lots more space to grow food!
it’s been a little over a week now and i am feeling so many intense emotions of gratefulness and thankfulness. every morning i wake up and think, wow, the possibilities, and how i want to grow young here with my family. if you’ve been following my journey for a while you probably know its been our long term goal and dream to get a space with enough land to grow lots of food-moving towards sustainability. we’ve been saving and working towards this goal for years and have had our eye out for a while- then this place popped up which was exactly what we were looking for and everything fell into place.
there’s already a few mature coconut trees, a mature avocado tree and lots of banana plants. we are gonna grow taro, lots of veggies and herbs, and plant plenty more fruit trees. lychee, jackfruit, ulu, lilikoi, and maybe even a durian tree. it’s more rainy and wet on this part of the island so the possibilities are endless and we are so excited to get our hands in the dirt and work towards fruitfulness for our future. stay tuned on my youtube channel (ellen fisher) for shares of our space coming soon! love you guys and thank you for your support all these years!
He found a lizard and gently picked him up to whisper to him🦎. he’s so happy in that moment and wants the lizard to be his friend. children are so curious, so naturally kind to animals 🌈🍃ps-do you see lil scout playing peek a boo in the second photo? 😍😍melts me! swipe right to see.